I work with people who are tired of repeating the same relational patterns and ready to understand what keeps happening in their relationships — and begin changing what happens when conflict starts.
My focus is helping you stay connected to yourself — especially under stress — so your relationships don’t require you to disappear.
I hold a master’s degree in counseling and advanced training in trauma-informed approaches including EMDR. My work is also shaped by more than twenty years of personal healing, accountability, integration, and embodied practice.
I’ve known seasons of overextension, self-abandonment, misplaced certainty, and unhealthy coping. I’ve had to face my own impact and learn how to repair it.
Those experiences didn’t disqualify me from this work — they matured me into it.
They also shaped the way I practice: direct, accountable, and grounded in real relational change.
What I’m most committed to now is careful listening — to your words, to what happens in your nervous system, and to the subtle things that rarely get said out loud.
I practice the same accountability, embodiment, and honesty I ask of my clients.
You may be a strong fit for this work if you:
→ carry a lot for others — emotionally or logistically
→ appear capable on the outside but feel anxious, resentful, or alone inside
→ keep ending up in the same conflict or attachment patterns
→ swing between over-giving and shutting down
→ want depth and accountability — not just insight
I’m not here to blame your past.
I’m here to help you understand how old relational roles still shape the patterns showing up in your relationships today — so you can choose differently now.
In our work together, we bring your body into the room — not just your thoughts.
We notice what happens in real time when you feel criticized, ignored, needed, or overwhelmed.
We slow those moments down so the pattern becomes visible — and you can choose a different response.
We connect early attachment roles — the fixer, the invisible one, the overachiever, the controller — to the patterns showing up in your current relationships.
When helpful, we use approaches like EMDR and somatic processing to work with stuck beliefs and unresolved experiences that still shape your reactions today.
And we practice new relational skills in session: boundaries, repair, direct communication, and staying present when things get uncomfortable.
This work isn’t about erasing your history.
It’s about expanding your capacity for steady, self-trusting connection.
I believe there is something larger than us. In therapy, that means your values and conscience matter.
We can talk honestly about where spiritual or cultural messages have supported you — and where they’ve reinforced shame, fear, or over-responsibility.
You don’t have to share my language or beliefs.
We’ll work with what feels honest and grounded to you.
I’m happiest near living water, in the garden, improvising something nourishing in the kitchen, moving my body fully, singing at full volume, or spending unplugged time with my partner, dear friends, and our goofy floofy pups.
I care deeply about living the work I offer — staying present, telling the truth, and not disappearing from myself in the process.
I know what it’s like to lose yourself in a relationship.
To look up and realize you’ve been living outside your own center.
This work didn’t come from theory for me.
It came from choosing a different way — and learning how to stay in it.
That’s the place I work from with you.
